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I LOVE U (Inquire, Listen, Observe, Volunteer, Empathize, and Understand): How to Teach Children to Overcome Family Splitting, Triangulation, Learn, & Employ Emotional Regulation & Interpersonal Effectiveness Skills Post Divorce

August 10, 2017

Source: I LOVE U (Inquire, Listen, Observe, Volunteer, Empathize, and Understand): How to Teach Children to Overcome Family Splitting, Triangulation, Learn, & Employ Emotional Regulation & Interpersonal Effectiveness Skills Post Divorce

I LOVE U (Inquire, Listen, Observe, Volunteer, Empathize, and Understand): How to Teach Children to Overcome Family Splitting, Triangulation, Learn, & Employ Emotional Regulation & Interpersonal Effectiveness Skills Post Divorce

I LOVE U (Inquire, Listen, Observe, Volunteer, Empathize, and Understand): How to Teach Children to Overcome Family Splitting, Triangulation, Learn, & Employ Emotional Regulation & Interpersonal Effectiveness Skills Post Divorce

August 10, 2017

I LOVE U – Inquire, Listen, Observe, Volunteer, Empathize, and Understand is one approach to engage your children to understand and overcome the effects divorce and child custody reaction can have on their psychological development.

Maples Family Law: What to Wear to Divorce Court in Stockton, CA

Maples Family Law: What to Wear to Divorce Court in Stockton, CA

August 9, 2017

Maples Family Law – If you’re going to divorce court, you need to know what to wear. Your Stockton divorce attorney will be happy to answer your questions.

What is Divorce Mediation?

What is Divorce Mediation?

July 25, 2017

Another Great Article from Maples Family Law. There are alternatives to an old fashioned divorce. While a judge acts in the capacity to make decisions for you, in the case of mediation, a third party is hired to attempt and bring some form of mutual agreement between you and your former spouse. Read more for […]

How to Develop a Parenting Plan During Divorce — Maples Family Law

June 16, 2017

  Your attorney will guide you through the basics of divorce, from filing a petition for dissolution in the Stockton court system to negotiating a property settlement with your spouse. Some things, though, are really personal—including how you set up your parenting plan so your kids get what they need from each of you. As family… […]

Turn Off, Tune Out, and Drop In: Media, Politics, and the Social Spin Cycle as Symptom & Dream?

Turn Off, Tune Out, and Drop In: Media, Politics, and the Social Spin Cycle as Symptom & Dream?

May 20, 2017

Most of our world is mind-spin. The power of wisdom is to wake us to the direct experiences of things as they are. It dispels our drowsy blindness and allows us to live more of our life, rather then just experiencing the world from the conceptual realm where what we call reality is a dream […]

Through the Looking Glass: Dreaming, Development, and Getting Back to Even

Through the Looking Glass: Dreaming, Development, and Getting Back to Even

April 13, 2017

In this essay, I explore from a depth psychological perspective our growing growing inability to dream, its effects on childhood development, current social woes, and what parents can do to help their children heal during this age of division.

Weakness or Strength: Understanding Your Child’s Symptoms and Emotions from a Strength Based Perspective

Weakness or Strength: Understanding Your Child’s Symptoms and Emotions from a Strength Based Perspective

April 5, 2017

Childhood behaviors are a major area of concern for the fields of psychology and education. As psychologists have advanced their diagnostic tool set, the list of disorders our children are exposed to, judged by, and labeled with has grown to staggering numbers in direct correlation with the advancements of our scientific endeavors. As a child, it seemed that I, along with most […]

Love, Fear, & Early Childhood Emotions: Understanding Your Child’s Plight to Develop Emotional Intelligence

Love, Fear, & Early Childhood Emotions: Understanding Your Child’s Plight to Develop Emotional Intelligence

March 28, 2017

Learning about our emotional landscape is a lifelong process. Defined as “a conscious mental reaction subjectively experienced as a strong feeling usually directed toward a specific object and typically accompanied by physiological and behavioral changes in the body” (Emotion, n.d.), Emotions can wreak havoc on our mental, physical, and even spiritual development. While emotions exist on […]

 

All journeys begin with a dream. My dream occurred in the summer 2000, after I entered a deep and regenerative sleep. Like many people, I yearned to belong to something greater; I yearned to live of a life filled with purpose, fulfilled by meaning. However, like many others, I had lost my way, did not know who I wanted to become, or what my purpose was in this life.

It was from this starting point, that a dream arose from within. A dream that I was standing in service to others, helping them to navigate through problems of mutual understanding, helping them to stand at the helm of their life, making meaning in each day, and finding their true path. At the time, I did not know where this dream would lead, but that I would somehow find my journey while standing in service to help others find their journey.

Dreams are a starting point to engage our personal future. They work through our imagination, opening us to inner worlds of creativity and new possibility. By dreaming, we learn ways to deal with past emotional and psychological conflict, develop understanding about events that currently shape our life, and develop the ability to chart new and exciting possibilities for our future development. Dreams are a starting point for us to realize the possibilities in life we seek.

Emotional, spiritual, and physical wellbeing is a product of soul work. We must go within, in order to dream life forward and watch those dreams become a reality. Psychological symptoms, even mental illness does not doom those who suffer its grasp. Instead, it provides a snapshot into the problems that can impede us during the long and oftentimes arduous journey called life. Symptoms, like dreams, allow us to develop a deep understanding of ourselves, and engage in a path of Self awareness.

Psychological symptoms are not a sign of weakness, or even an illness; instead, they are a road into the soul of the problem, and oftentimes mask inner strengths once thought lost. As a practicing psychotherapist with 17 years experience in helping others, I have seen first hand the growth an individual can attain when going within, developing an understanding of, creating, and implementing a plan  to overcome the barriers that stand in the way of healthy psychological development. Having treated everything from anxiety and mood disorders to personality disorders, I have seen the soul behind many problem, have helped people develop new perspectives about their symptoms, see, harness, and benefit from the internal strengths they have, and overcome those symptoms in a manner that leads to deep personal meaning.

My journey to become a developmental psychologist began from that early summer dream some 17 years prior. While lost at the time and not knowing what direction my journey would take, I was open to new experiences, and because of this, I found direction. In this blog, I explore areas of developmental psychology. Having a Ph.D in psychology, and being trained in psychoanalytic, analytical, Eastern, and Spiritual traditions of psychology, my goal is to help others understand, overcome, and grow from the experiences they face along their developmental journey. Whether you are a student seeking new information on developmental paradigms of psychology, a parent seeking to understand your child, a teacher looking for more information to understand the children you help, or an elder seeking to make sense of the journey undertaken, this blog is for you. I welcome and honor your feedback, and hope you enjoy.

Dr. Tom

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